If there is any word in this world that has lost its place in relationships, it is love. The world has substituted love for everything from people to money to careers to things to sex to feelings etc. Saddest of all, the replacements have crept up to the church. Most relationships among God’s people are now a reflection of what is in the world rather than a replica of what is in the Word. Love itself has not changed. It is based solely on your actions, what you do, what you give, each of your acts of kindness.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son…” John 3:16 NIV

Love is verified through works of kindness. It hasn’t lost its luster, its purpose, its drive, or its mission. It has done and will always do what it was originally intended to do. In order to receive its full manifestation, we have to give up our own selfish, inconsiderate, and insensitive perception and definition of love and assume the true genuine meaning of love. Because the Bible defines love as God.

“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:8 NIV

The definition of love is so clear and simple, but it is people who have made it so complex. In this generation, most efforts to find love are started with dreams of settling down with great biceps, great body, beautiful hair, and that exceptionally economical person, not realizing that this settling down mentality is more of a line of settling. with the imitation version of love. Understand that having someone handsome and beautiful with money is not the problem. The dilemma is not to figure out what takes precedence over the other in the relationship. They love you? Or have they fallen madly in love with what you have? This is not a gender-specific error, as it applies to both men and women. People have simply reconstructed the meaning of love and its attributes to fit them and their own personal agenda, and they wonder why relationships so often result in death. Understand that when it comes to building anything, especially relationships, the initial start of construction, the foundation, influences the assembly of the entire building. If the foundation of your relationship is built on anything other than what is designed to be durable and withstand the brunt of heat, rain, and wind, sooner or later it will crumble. At some point, no matter how good you look or appear to others, you will go down. How your love life is built is important.

“Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain…” Psalm 127:1 KJV

What bait are you using to attract love?

On a love journey, we have a tendency to show what we most want others to like or love about us. For example, both men and women, consciously or unconsciously, tend to highlight tangible things like cars, houses, money, etc.; Financial statements, physical physics, careers, and ministry are included. Please don’t misinterpret this to suggest that all of those things don’t matter in relationships, because to a degree they do. However, in the search for love, what you really need to emphasize more is your real and genuine qualities – no makeup, body parts, financial status or anything like that. Showing all these external qualities diverts attention from the real you. Therefore, leading others to love what you do best; prompting them to emphasize your body parts, careers, and financial status more than you. At the end of the day, when true love arrives, it is looking for you. This rings true in all relationships, whether seeking a spouse, friend, job, business, or even ministry relationships. You would be surprised how many people fall more in love with the idea of ​​marriage or wedding than with the person they marry or marry. Many relationships are held together by finances; as many are also intact as long as he or she retains his or her physical physique. You have to remember that the adhesive you use to hold your relationship together will set as long as you use the right glue. If the glue you use loses its ability to stick, anything that holds together is at risk of falling apart. That being said, to ensure real and genuine love in your relationships, tap into the glue, the love, the God who is able to make it stick and last. This is the love that is defined and generated by God.

Your Relationship with God Reflects

Your relationship with God is a direct reflection of your relationship with others. For that reason, the Bible requires that we love God first, then others as we would love ourselves. No wonder we are not ready to love others until we learn to love God. Because loving God teaches us to love ourselves and others. If your love for others is not aligned or in the right perspective, then your relationship with God is the same: questionable. We must be careful and intentional not to choose to make a life with people who do not have a relationship with God. On the other hand, it is just as risky to seek relationships with those who love God, while you yourself lack that area. That will attract a lot of confusion for both parties involved. If you have trouble loving God, you will have trouble loving God’s people or daughter. We are giving in to allowing others to love us according to the world’s standards and not the Word when we don’t strategize in relationships. Don’t choose to accept reduced or imitation love over abundant love that only comes from God. If that means having to wait on the Lord, then wait.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice with evil, but rejoices with the truth “Love bears everything, believes everything, hopes everything, bears everything. Love never ends…” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV