Sexuality is about enjoying our own body’s responsiveness through masturbation. The ability of our mind to respond to erotic scenarios (both real and imagined) causes us to investigate the responses of our body. Using the hands (or more precisely the fingers) to massage the aroused sexual organ, allows us to enjoy the pleasure of arousal and orgasm when we are alone. Humans have used their fingers for masturbation since time immemorial.

Regardless of gender, sexual activity that aims to achieve orgasm involves continuous rhythmic movements of the whole body focused on the pelvis. Masturbation, for men and women, simulates the male role in intercourse. Men and women tighten the gluteal muscles in a similar way to put pressure on the sex organ from within the body. Both sexes can also point toes. Men sometimes stand on tiptoe. These subconscious reflexes are the result of a push instinct. They cannot be used to cause orgasms.

Orgasm is a response from the brain. Our minds respond to erotic stimuli regardless of the state of our relationship and the availability of a partner. A basic characteristic of responsiveness is that a person can reach orgasm on their own. Men and women use their fingers to massage the blood flow into the corpora cavernosa within the penis and the internal organ of the clitoris.

Adults who do not tell children how to masturbate. Children discover masturbation on their own if they have the ability. Children investigate the possibility of masturbation soon after learning about it. Stimulation is very likely to lead to orgasm in children because they are so easily aroused. Girls are not automatically turned on (by hormones) like boys. Clitoral stimulation only leads to orgasm when combined with explicit fantasies.

The function of sexual activity alone is the pleasure of the individual. Male masturbation is much more common than female masturbation because men are easily and regularly aroused. This constant arousal causes a build-up of sexual frustration that many men like to release through masturbation. A woman is not aroused hormonally, by visual stimuli from a lover’s body, or in anticipation of sexual activity. So a woman doesn’t have the same urge to masturbate. She does not experience suppressed sexual desire like young men do.

For men, masturbation is often a poor substitute for sexual activity with a lover. But women only reach orgasm through masturbation. Masturbation clearly serves quite different functions for men and women. For a receptive woman, orgasm is a simple pleasure, but it is not essential for female sexuality.

If a boy were abandoned on a desert island, he would most likely experience a hormonal erection at puberty. But it is unlikely that he will ever masturbate because he would not have the stimulus from someone else’s body to use as fantasy. If a girl were abandoned on a desert island, she would never discover masturbation to orgasm. She would not have the experience of being an object of male desire and she would not have access to erotic fiction to construct the sexual fantasies she would need to reach orgasm.

Adults masturbate in the long term because they can reliably generate fantasies that lead to orgasm. The incidence and frequency of masturbation is related to our responsiveness and the creativity of our imagination. The more creative and inventive we are in imagining scenarios, the more likely we are to enjoy a solitary activity that is based on our imagination.

The shame arises because many women dislike the idea of ​​masturbation. They consider such crude behavior to be unpleasant. Women can be strong in their condemnation of explicit sexual activity. Many women just don’t understand why someone masturbates. The few women who masturbate are inevitably alienated by such attitudes. Men also avoid referring to their masturbatory activities for the same reason.

Receptive women masturbate much less frequently than most men (once every 3-4 weeks on average). Any woman can buy a sex toy. But you do it to make sure you can experience orgasm the way you have been told you should. But this is not the result of an instinctive mental impulse. Few women have the mental response to eroticism that orgasm provokes.

A man experiences fantasy as a reflection of the real world. Imagine a real partner in realistic and achievable situations. But a woman’s fantasies are based on unrealistic scenarios that cannot be realized in real life. One might wonder why these things are the way they are. One could try to approach sexual arousal and orgasm in a different way. But finally we use the mechanism that works. Masturbation techniques are quite limited.

Most women conclude that orgasm (like masturbation) is overrated. They assume it should happen automatically during intercourse or when they stimulate themselves. But this is not an orgasm. Even men do not reach orgasm solely through physical stimulation. Any adult needs some form of mental stimulation of an explicitly erotic nature to achieve orgasm. Women rarely appreciate orgasm occurring because of what happens in the brain. Very specific stimulation of the sexual organ only works once we are aroused.

Masturbation may or may not be pursued to the point of orgasm, and it may or may not be aimed at orgasm. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)