Many women come to me because they are having trouble getting a new partner or with an existing partner. Those who have trouble finding someone often turn to chat rooms and forums hoping to find someone there. Unfortunately, many of them are quite naive and gullible and get tricked and lured by selfish guys who lie to try and get what they want.

Let’s look at some of the facts. If a woman or someone pretending to be a woman walks into a chat room, there will be hundreds of guys asking her to talk quickly. If a guy goes there, he will be lucky if he gets an offer and it would be from a gay man pretending to be a woman, since women generally don’t look for chats and they get so many questions that they don’t need to look for people to ask.

Men can call the chat lines and pay for the chats there, so it stands to reason that they would try to get them for free online to save money, but there is nothing in this for the woman. There’s also the fact that most men are looking to talk about sex or hoping to meet the woman and will steer the conversation towards her age, what she looks like, where she lives and sex if they can. When you’re a woman and you get hundreds of questions asking where you live and what you look like, it’s boring, predictable, and a complete waste of time. Women who really want to meet would normally go to a dating agency. It is safer and saves a lot of time.

Women tend to go online to chat while they wait for the cake to bake in the oven or the laundry to finish its cycle, that doesn’t mean they are unhappy at home with their husband or sexually frustrated or want to cheat. But men often look for a conversation because they are bored at home and want to talk about sexual issues, to relieve themselves, and if possible it would be even better to meet. For the boys it is a fishing expedition, where they cast the net and see who bites. The females are the fish and have less reason to bite. Therefore, some of the men will offer them money to meet and others will get very nasty and angry when they refuse to meet.

In their effort to get sex talk or hookups with women, men often lie, pretending to be single because very few women will consider meeting a man who is married or in a relationship. Pretend to be more handsome or younger. Pretending to be rich and have lots of money that they want to spend on her. In some cases, it can be said that the guy has a mental illness or wants to feel superior to women instead of wanting to chat with sex.

If you are a woman who wants to chat, remember that many men lie, remember that many so-called singles are married or in a relationship and men who say their age is often older than they say, many of them lie about their jobs and other circumstances. Above all, many lie about why they are asking to have a conversation with you.

Women’s safety in online chat rooms is not just about not meeting, you should be able to meet if you want, but about not being eager to trust everything people say and remembering that they are strangers with ulterior motives.

The worst that can happen is that you meet the wrong person and get raped, murdered or beaten up, maybe kidnapped and your loved ones will never see you again. But why put up with the best thing that can happen, which can be verbal abuse from someone you can’t track or punish and who thinks it’s safe to be nasty to you when you refuse to Skype topless with them?