Is there a magical mystical place or time when you should draw your line in the sand with your cheating husband? It would be much easier if there was a single solution that would help you deal with her cheating husband and save her marriage. However, there are some questions you can ask after finding out your husband has cheated on you that will help you identify the right line in the sand for your marriage.

1. Do you think your husband has only done this once and will never do it again? Cheating sometimes happens for convenience. It’s easier to believe it’s a one-time deal if he comes to you with the confession rather than you finding out on your own.
2. Was it a long term fling? This question, if the answer is yes, often leads to many other questions. Is the matter over? Was there something he was getting from the other relationship that you just can’t give him? Do you think you will have this type of relationship again during the course of your marriage? Can you live with the knowledge of the previous adventure or the fear of a future adventure?
3. Is this becoming a bad habit in your marriage? If her husband has cheated on her multiple times and continues to apologize one time and runs off to do it all over again the next, then she needs to carefully examine why he keeps giving her and how long he is willing to live this way.
4. Are you still emotionally involved with the marriage right now? This is usually the final line in the sand. Once you have withdrawn your emotional investment, there really is nothing left on which to build the next stage of your marriage.
5. Have you taken responsibility for your actions without trying to place the blame on you? This is a great question to ask yourself before you draw your line in the sand. If he’s trying to blame you for his actions, it’s time you started asking yourself some tough questions about whether your future is better off alone than in your current marriage.
6. Are you starting to believe that you deserve this behavior from him? It is one thing to accept that you may have contributed to an affair by failing to address certain needs within your marriage. Another thing is accepting blame that does not belong to you. Ultimately, he is the one to be duped and that responsibility is his and his alone.